2007-07-24
To everyone who has been giving the Twins a hard time:
Will you all please stop being such selfish idiots and let them choose for themselves already?
It's bad enough that they have to make their decisions in a test-ridden week, let alone go through a whole series of "TRAITORS!" and "LEAVING FOR VJ!" whines.
I know we're going to miss them. Who isn't? They've been such an impact on the class, and we all love them. But is there a need to make life so difficult for them? To consistently make them think that just because they managed to succeed, they're "bad"?
Please. They've been through so much. They worked so hard to get through the test, and they worked so hard to complete the interview. They've gone through the nerves, terror, fear, trouble, worries and exhaustion. And we're congratulating them by blaming them?
If you all haven't realized:
IT'S THEIR LIFE.
They should be the ones to choose what they want to do, what they want to be, what they want to pursue. If you want to give them advice, do it from a neutral point of view. Give them the pros and cons, not just the OMG IT IS SO BAD YOU SHOULD SERIOUSLY STAY OTHERWISE YOU WILL SPROUT WARTS AND SPEAK LIKE AN ORANG UTAN FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. Think about them, for once. Not just yourself.
And now you'll be all "Oh I'm thinking for them too, I'm going to miss them see and I love them that's why I want them to stay". If you really loved them, give them the space to make the choices they want to make. Encourage them. Don't beat them down. After they've been through so much, at least give them the credit they deserve.
And please. This, is SINGAPORE. If you haven't noticed, it's absolutely tiny. No one's going anywhere. We'll see them and they'll see us. If we don't, call them and they'll be right over.
And before you write me off as an unfeeling, uncaring friend who can't wait to have the twins off her back, please. I've known Vanessa since I was Primary One, and Val has been my best friend since I was in P3. I'm not sure if she still feels the same way, but I do love her and Vanessa very much, and I really hope they'll be able to make their decision to do what they really want. I don't want them to leave, but I will not force them to stay.
It's their life, it's their path. I say we let them make their decision, so that we can celebrate when they achieve their goals.
To Valerie and Vanessa.
All the best in everything. I love you both so much it hurts sometimes, and even though all of us have been through our rough spots, I'll have you know that I'm here for the both of you, always.
Hugs.
abstracity at 11:33 p.m.